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October 31, 2013

Moved to Tumblr

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Hi all…

I have been adding my photos over on tumblr now.

go take a peek

http://riggerjay.tumblr.com/

October 2, 2013

Keeping your privacy on OKCupid

Filed under: Blog — Tags: — RiggerJay @ 2:05 am

so OkCupid is a privacy nightmare..

your data from all the questions you answer are OkCupids actual product (some 40+ sites from story on NPR get your responses to questions).

But if you don’t care about that part.. (I don’t all that much) ,

Think about all the questions, esp on sex and kink etc.. if you answer a lot of them, you reveal a lot about yourself, of course that is the point.. it’s how they match you..

The real privacy issue I see with OKCupid is your co-workers etc..

It really is not at all a far reach for people from work/church so on, to come across your OKCupid. I could be rather career damaging for someone to see all the kink questions you answered or what drugs you like.

Right now I have an okcupid that i have answered lots of questions on across lots of topics. But I have not put up a picture, I have not used a scene name.

Downside: no photo = no visitors or interest from others

How do you solve wanting to create a real match with someone, while still protecting your privacy?

Only idea I can think of is two OKCupid profiles, one with minimal details and pictures of you. The other has no photo , and lots of answers to questions

Use the image-less profile to find matches for yourself, and use the one with pictures to write someone you are interested in

So is this a crazy idea? or does it have merit?

September 9, 2013

Your defintion is wrong..

Filed under: Blog — Tags: — RiggerJay @ 12:49 am

I see so many different writings pop up on my friends feed on Fetlife,  Facebook etc..

what IS __________

it’s usually a touch ranty , filled with valid interesting perspectives.. but mostly it is perspective. you know that whole perception = reality kinda thing.

The over all reality is .. you are talking about how it is for you (maybe others as well), but for you. It’s not right, it’s not wrong. It is your preference / perspective.

What you go on for you really does mean ____________ , For others it really is means ___________ .. for some it’s mostly means ___________ , and others it has nothing to do ___________

Take the word poly , it means so many things to so many people. It’s the start of a conversation and that is about it

Think about that next time you jump up on a soap box to tell the world how you think it is..

just like this writing itself , it is a point of view, it is neither valid or invalid , it’s just a point of view

July 10, 2013

Are you authoring that book?

Filed under: Blog — Tags: , , , , , — RiggerJay @ 2:09 am

Nope, not authoring the book,  that’s all Lee Harrington!

To me Shibari You can Use is one the best intro books for rope bondage.    It was how I started with rope, studied it over and over.  

Later as I started going to events, I got to meet Lee Harrington and take one of his classes in person.  I scheduled a private class with Lee , a day of learning suspension, its how I started doing that.

Later I became friends with Lee.

About a year ago, Lee asked me “Jay would you shoot my next rope book ‘More Shibari You Can Use’?“   

of course I said yes..    As that plan evolved Lee decided to re-shoot , his first book at same time.

It is pretty surreal for me that when this project is done, I will have my name on the cover as the photographer..   The book I started learning rope with about 6 years ago.

June 21, 2013

freeze frame

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who wants to be in front of my camera this weekend

June 14, 2013

Class: Takate Kote, an iconic tie from Japan

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Class Level: Some Skills / Intermediate

Format: Lecture / Hands on
Duration: 60-90 min


The Takata Kote (TK, Box tie) is one of the best known, most seen ties from Japan. It is used heavily in suspension bondage. In many ways it is a surprisingly simple tie, but it has evolved over time, and there are many fine details that make it so effective.

This class will teach you step by step , several variations of the Takata Kote and go into detail about why it is tied the way it is.

For this class you will already know some basic rope, and general safety. You will also need someone to tie, and 4 lengths of 30ft rope.

Class: Violating Personal Space, Getting up close and personal with Rope

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Class Level: Some Skills / Intermediate
Format: Lecture / Hands on
Duration: 60-90 min
Required Facilities: Lots of floor space, mats for people to be on a plus (out on grass works well also)


Rope is both a technical and artist kink, but often in the process the intimacy is lost. It’s time to break the habits set in while first learning rope !

This class will help you move from tying at arm’s length to being up close and personal with your partner. The focus is connection, tender or rough, It’s about being intimate, it’s about your partner..

To participate in this class you should be able to tie a non-collapsing cuff, a simple chest harness, and bring with you 4+ 30ft lenghts of rope, and a few shorter pieces. for extra fun, bring some parachute cord

Class: Boudoir Photography on a budget for the Beginner

Filed under: Blog — Tags: — RiggerJay @ 1:29 am

Class Level: Beginner
Format: Lecture / Demo / Conversation (Camera not required)
Duration: 60-90 min
Required Facilities: Room that can be darkened, and power.
Optional: Screen to use for an overhead projector (I will provide projector)


Don’t let your camera equipment top you!

With so much of the kinky play being an opportunity for making art, porn and memory-making, let’s look at how to make photography a part of our erotic journey.

From understanding the technology of higher-end digital cameras (like what all of those dials mean and do) to lighting, we will dive into the technology to help make photos you can be proud of (including pics on a budget).

And for those of us who are taking pictures of people other than our lovers – let’s look at respect and consent with our models, including using model releases for ensuring consent for the future. In this demonstration and lecture, we will also discuss what you want out of photo-play, making photo-play sexy and fun!

This class is intended for beginners, and is a lecture/demo. No camera required.

June 9, 2013

What does a girl need to do to be tied up by you? :) <3

Filed under: Blog — Tags: — RiggerJay @ 1:33 am

At this point of my life, I am only tying people i am involved with in some way. I don’t find enjoyment anymore just tying someone for the sake of doing it, or to provide an experience for someone I don’t know.  More of a focus on the passion and connection I guess

April 16, 2012

Workshop: Rope For Couples! Day long intensive in Providence RI , June 2nd

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Day long workshop on playing with rope in the bedroom , with strong focus on staying connected with your partner.

This class is limited to 15 couples, that must pre-pay to attend. Fee for class is $90 a couple, for 6+ hours of instruction. AND you will get a spiral bound copy of Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé

Summary

Rope play has been entering into the spotlight for kink enthusiasts during the past few years, it is even making headway into popular culture. Besides it’s esthetic, it is a great way to connect with your partner and can help to create some very intimate and close moments .
RiggerJay, a Boston based rope enthusiast, will help you get going with a day long hands on course. Guiding you from the basics of rope all the way up to having very hot moments with your partner.

Some of the highlights:

  • Brief history on Japanese rope
  • Anatomy of rope
  • Playing safe
  • Warm-up/foreplay with rope
  • Several basic ties
  • Hogties and other more advanced ties
  • Bondage for sex
  • In class play time
  • Where do you go from here

What you need for the class

This is a hands on class, it is recommended that your bring 4 thirty foot lengths of rope. A 200 ft bundle of clothes line or something similar from your local home hardware store would work well for this class. Also this class is focused on couple interaction, coming with a regular play partner, lover , spouse etc is suggested.

Where is it?

The class will be held at a private club in Providence RI, it is only 45 min south of Boston, but the drive is well worth it.

We will have lots of space for students, and areas so you have a chance to use the new skills you have learned with privacy (practice makes perfect)

How to Register!!

The club we are holding event at will be handling registration for the class. Please email me at   jay@riggerjay.com that you want to come to the class and I will send you where you need to call to register and pre-pay

October 29, 2011

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-29

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  • fuck my leg that was hit with bad poison ivy is breaking out #
  • so yeah my party is in a few hours .. too much to do… but with 100 kinksters .. should be great night , hopefully best NE in while #
  • In a bind, what is a quick and easy find to wash latex? Would hand soap or dish soap be okay? #
  • omg what a night !!! thanks everyone who helped out to make it a fantastic party #
  • The little play I had lastnight when event wound down has me wound up.. sigh and no date it looks like to party tonight #

October 28, 2011

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-28

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  • First Frost 🙁 #
  • It's been a rough week http://t.co/49m41FwN #
  • the only occupy tweets I have seen in some time are mocking or tourism .. news has lost interest #
  • damit.. my copy of BF3 is arriving today.. think anyone would complain if brought my xbox to play party and played it all night? #
  • no worse than bringing copies of DnD GM/Players manual to a play party right? #beatingdeadhorse #

October 27, 2011

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-27

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  • Chicken Pussy http://t.co/YB4ZLRrn #
  • so my days of dev by photoshop was a hit at client conference and Owner of company loves it and was selling it ,all cred on design was 2 me #
  • have to shop for party on Friday after work.. good thing fridge is pretty well empty #

October 26, 2011

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-26

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  • a very good night at @citadelairsoft with @xsggx #
  • wow Spirit.com is the way to get to chicago.. sheesh if I wanted to go for saturday night Nov 12 it would cost $63 #

October 25, 2011

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-25

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October 24, 2011

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-24

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  • I may have to add "into gagging" as fetish on fetlife .. 205 and growing #
  • Wow I received an email saying I have inherited Muammar Gadhafi's estate wooohooo I am rich.. off to reply #
  • is there any food at Wendy's that is actually good for me? #
  • what is reasonable rate for a 2 hour private class on rope? people are completely new #

October 23, 2011

Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-10-23

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  • Did you get an email from me today? well if you did read it 🙂 follow instructions #
  • so yeah I turn 40 in about 2 months #
  • ouch! "turkey vulture" "20 years past a cougar – still likes to hunt, but too old to take down the prey" #
  • really @bostonherald a story on fashion at #occupyboston come on #
  • Salem Rope Group this Thursday #
  • what do you get when you merge Shibaricon with Anthrocon?? A rodeo!! #
  • #occupyboston is no longer a hot topic on Boston.com #mediaGettingBored #
  • damnit.. zombie vs Shark is playing this weekend at Coolidge comer.. I am out of town #
  • http://t.co/Dli0AsAL real shark.. "real" zombie.. no CGI #
  • I come up with crazy ideas… really I do.. let's see if this one will
    fly #
  • wow who knew… some times my hair brained schemes do take flight #
  • I now have to find place Friday night to crash in NYC area vs driving sat morning #
  • "When you are down and troubled, and need some love and care" http://t.co/1hLw0GCl Vincent Price Version #
  • damn you Civ V like all the other Civ games.. soooo addicting #
  • hi my name is @RiggerJay and I am addicted to @MauiKink rope #
  • I'm at Uno Chicago Grill (155 Bear Hill Rd, Waltham) http://t.co/mb8CISWh #
  • I just unlocked the "Superstar" badge on @foursquare! http://t.co/LMNEt4ws #
  • tonight I .. clean apt, make a sentry gun (real one) and play Civ 5 … maybe watch porn #
  • anyone else bothered when they hear a @BoA "ad" on @NPR #
  • first time in 8 years I have slept in on a work day… I don't use an alarm , just a damn good body clock #
  • local news talks about what is cool for Halloween rather than #occupyBoston unless something bad/interesting happens… lime light is done #
  • tired of teaching 1-2 column tie at almost every rope group .. making it a strongly suggested prelearned tie before coming .. #
  • Primarily sending people to learn Somervile bowline or ties on @twistedmonk / @Monkeyfetish 's sites for tutorials #
  • “@TristanTaormino: Regretfully, I have to cancel my Boston trip. Workshop @ GV Thurs. reading will go on w/o me.” @Bendyogagirl #
  • think I have to add new fetish.. "forced Silence" the torment is making me smile #
  • Dont be the guy that ruined airsoft http://t.co/fhh9ILCt don't take your gear to school!! @citadelairsoft #
  • hey lefty rope people… ever had issues with tutorials etc due to them being shown by right handed people ? I have not had issue #lefty #
  • nice play with rope and camera .. including a first flight http://t.co/TSC7Hh6R #
  • #ows has become a tourist attraction.. #
  • Dihydrogen Monoxide … the silent killer http://t.co/UilFS5ZU #
  • Salem Rope Group tonight in well Salem #
  • gun , robot and boobs.. rough night last night http://t.co/SRcvYLLl #
  • Sorry Party is now full!!
    If you did not reply to the confirmation email sent out in last few days, you may not be able to attend #
  • WEEkEND!!!!! home pack , clean litter the Off to NYC looks like a great weekend to wander city then party at a friends place #
  • gah…. 4 hour drive is beating me up #
  • dude it's a smartcar not a F1 race car #
  • arrived in NYC found great free street parking for the weekend #
  • shocktop pumpkin wheat for the win (@ Bravest on 38th w/ 2 others) http://t.co/J5R5kt4z #
  • #ff @LeilaHazlett @BellaVendetta @toristorii @MauiKink @CherriesJubalie @PassionAndSoul @avaamnesia @AidenFyre @tonyawinter #
  • this bar is loud constant 90db #
  • I like stairs… you go first #
  • I haz an @avaamnesia here at @PassionAndSoul and @AidenFyre 's new home #
  • overload… #
  • hour from home…. might beat @avaamnesia .
    , car vs plane race #
  • I think I won the 'race' just arrived home from NYC #
  • nap after whirlwind day in NYC , fairly recharged. now some programming to help me manage guest list for party next Friday.. #
  • I think operation surpise the hell out of @PassionAndSoul / @AidenFyre a complete success!! #
  • I may have to add "into gagging" as fetish on fetlife .. 205 and growing #

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-23

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  • I haz an @avaamnesia here at @PassionAndSoul and @AidenFyre 's new home #
  • overload… #
  • hour from home…. might beat @avaamnesia .
    , car vs plane race #
  • I think I won the 'race' just arrived home from NYC #
  • nap after whirlwind day in NYC , fairly recharged. now some programming to help me manage guest list for party next Friday.. #
  • I think operation surpise the hell out of @PassionAndSoul / @AidenFyre a complete success!! #

October 22, 2011

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-22

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October 21, 2011

Twitter Updates for 2011-10-21

Filed under: Tweet — Tags: , — RiggerJay @ 7:09 pm
  • Sorry Party is now full!!
    If you did not reply to the confirmation email sent out in last few days, you may not be able to attend #
  • WEEkEND!!!!! home pack , clean litter the Off to NYC looks like a great weekend to wander city then party at a friends place #
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